Dads and Husbands (The Final Episode)

I took a break from this series because some things happened with my mind that required attention. In that episode, I learnt that the way to grow is by “forgetting what lies behind so I can move forward”. The decision to move forward is because of who I am and where I am headed. My identity is more important and this pushes me forward.

Back to our series, we have said so many things in this series. We have briefly examined human relationships and I want to say clearly that, A Daddy is a Daddy, A Husband is a Husband, the relationships are not the same. Both relationships are forged under different circumstances, for different purposes and by different people.

A person takes on the position and authority of a husband only under the marriage covenant. The one who created the marriage institution states in Hebrews 13:4, “Honour the sanctity of marriage in all…”To honour means to have high respect and to hold in high esteem. To honour the sanctity of marriage includes honouring the husband and wife that makes up the marriage. Honour is the seed of longevity. Whatever you honour, you keep; whatever you dishonour, you lose.

The instruction of honour is also subjective. We must then seek to know what it means to hold a particular man or woman, as the case may be, in high esteem. This closes the room for comparison as your task is to hold your husband or wife in high esteem. Hence, you do not seek to find your father in your husband, or your mother in your wife. They are two different people in two different relationships. I think the test should be to find men or women of the Word. Men or Women born by the Word of God are people capable of producing the fruit of the spirit. This fruit, I believe is what makes people attractive. Perhaps, these are the things we see in our relationship with our parents and want to also enjoy.

Comparisons make us have expectations that are sometimes unrealistic. We begin to demand from people what was never sowed in them. When they fall short we are disappointed and dishonour sets in.

Jesus admonishes us not to put new wine in old wineskin as the consequences are grave. New wine is always poured in new wineskin for preservation. So yes, I can have my Father and my Husband and I can enjoy the relationship with both men.

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The End.